Life, Memories and Purpose


Every day, I receive notifications from Facebook about events that happened on my timeline in the past years. Yesterday, as I scrolled down, I saw people I became friends with, thoughts I shared and pictures I uploaded. In a way, it felt as though I could relive those moments. But those times are gone. I have made an exchange with history. I have traded the past for the present and I got memories as bonus.

As I have grown, I have come to appreciate what Karl Lagerfeld said about photographs. They capture moments that when gone are impossible to reproduce. I don’t have so much of photographs, but I am learning that we cannot have good memories of the past if we are not living well today. Therefore, it is important that we pay attention to how we are living today so that we can intentionally create memories that would inspire us to maximise tomorrow.

In essence a discussion on how to create positive memories is actually a discussion about making the best of today.

  1. It is okay to smile and have fun.

Someone once asked me if purpose is all work and no play. He wondered if it is possible to go to the cinemas, visit friends and have a lot of fun and still live purposefully. My response was that purpose isn’t something we do but someone we are. It is not about being spiri koko. It is about living the life of God and fulfilling your role in His global plan. This is why we must develop a good sense of humour and still take life seriously. We must learn to smile, have fun and live well. Do something out of the box. Go out with a friend. Live fully in the moment you are in.

  1. It is okay to think of yourself less and more of others.

Of all the things that Facebook reminds me of every day, I have found that I am usually more interested in the people I became friends with and the life I have shared with people on the social media space. I agree with Ama Ata Aidoo that humans, not places make memories. Positive memories do not consist primarily in the things we do, but in the people we impact. This is why when I think of my life twenty years from now I imagine that I will be able to look back and see how more people now live meaningfully because they met me at some points in their life journeys. Who will you share today with so that you can look back tomorrow and be inspired by your own impacts?

It is true that to live well in the present, you must let the past be past. However, it is equally true that the long line of life behind us can be a springboard for outstanding accomplishments in the future. Just like Facebook, life has a mechanism that makes us depend on our memories to be fully human. Tomorrow, when you will look back at today, what do you expect to see?

Blessed? Let me hear your thoughts. Please leave a comment.

You matter to me always.


Is Your Life-Dictionary Up to Date?


Most of the ideas, terminologies and principles that guide our existence evolved by virtue of man’s first act of disobedience in the Garden of Eden.
He lost his dominion over the creation and fell short of God’s glory.

Thus, words like fear, shame, guilt, impossibility and other negative expressions entered into man’s dictionary.  Take fear for example, the first time Adam and Eve expressed the feeling of fear was when they heard God’s voice and hid from Him for they were naked. It is from that fear that kept them from God’s presence in the garden, that every other kinds of fear flowed.

Take note that the idea of being naked was principally a symptom of their guilt and shame and not about their lack of Louis Vuitton or D&G designer clothes.

So, fear, guilt, shame and other negative ideas were not in God’s original plan for our lives and if we have appropriated the finished work of Jesus unto our lives by faith in Him, then, we must update our dictionary. We must expunge those ideas that are contrary to the life of the Kingdom from our dictionaries!

Someone said it is our heart not the dictionary that gives meaning to our words. I agree. The quality of our existence and our ability to manifest the Kingdom Life are determined by how updated our life’s dictionaries are. It is not enough to give our lives to Christ, we must grow into all that God planned for us to become.

We must continually align our lives with our identity as declared in the Scriptures and in the light of the finished work of Christ. This is what it means that as we behold the word of liberty, we are being transformed from glory to glory. As we read, study, meditate and confess God’s Word, our dictionaries are being updated and we are able to live the life of dominion God originally planned for us.

There’s an old story of a boy who stood on a sidewalk, waiting on a bus. A man walking by spotted the boy, and gave him some gentle instruction. “Son,” he said, “if you’re waiting on the bus, you need to move to the street corner. That’s where the bus stops for passengers.”
“It’s OK,” said the boy. “I’ll just wait right here, and the bus will stop for me.”
The man repeated his argument, but the boy never moved. Just then, the bus appeared. Amazingly, the bus pulled over to where the boy stood, and the child hopped on. The man on the sidewalk stood speechless. The boy turned around in the doorway and said, “Mister, I knew the bus would stop here, because the bus driver is my dad!”

When we enter into God’s family through our faith in Christ, we begin to enjoy the power and splendour of the Kingdom. But our enjoyment can be limited by the ideas from our unupdated dictionaries. When we deliberarely update our dictionaries, we will know we don’t have to stand at the bus stop to get the bus to wait for us. We have a direct link to the driver!


Out of the Water

Photo by Mark Moore via Flickr.

There once was a man who netted three trout from a mountain stream and carefully placed them side-by-side on a thick patch of grass. Before he removed them from the water, they were like a liquid ballet in motion. Fluid. Graceful. Vibrant. Alive.

After he netted them, the story changed.
As the trout lay on the grass, they were motionless. The man noticed they seemed unhappy, so he talked to them, hoping that his encouragement would change them.

“Little fish, don’t be sad. You’ll like the grass. Just try it out for a while.”

No movement. No response. No change.

Thankfully, just then a little boy approached exclaimed, “What are you doing? Put them back! They can’t be all they’ve been created to be when they are out of the water.”

The man carefully placed each fish back in the stream. After splashing for a split second, all three swam away effortlessly. Again, it was like a liquid ballet. What ease! What grace! What beauty!

Outside of God, man is like a fish out of water. You cannot be all you were created to be unless you reconnect with and remain in your Source. This is why purpose discovery starts with God discovery. There is so much beauty to be revealed through you. You can live a life of ease, grace and prosperity, but only in God for without (With Him Out) Him, everything and anything is nothing!