Yesterday, I received a call from someone asking me to come pick up a package that was sent to me from Lagos. I was not familiar with the location of the pick-up centre. The caller gave me a description I did not exactly get, but I expected I would be able to find my way around town. So I got on the road joining different buses at different stops with my eyes focused on where I figured my destination ought to be- the left side of the road.
I was on the bus with a friend who advised me to ask for directions from the driver or his conductor. But I was adamant. I felt I knew where I was going and asking for directions make me look like I was new in town. You know what they say about men not wanting to ask for direction? Maybe, I am a living example after all. Anyways, to cut the long story short, it took the loving intervention of my friend who volunteered to ask the driver if he knew my destination on my behalf to help me realize to my own embarrassment, that I had already passed where I was going. Actually, my destination was on the right side of the road and the driver was very familiar with the place. My ignorant assumption and pride cost me additional money, energy and time loss.
I think there is a lot in common between my journey to Isior and our life journeys. I want to share with you very briefly three lessons I learnt from that experience. I’ll be glad to read your gleanings too. Please leave a comment at the end of this post.
Always pursue CLARITY
I had an idea of where I was going. But I lacked clarity as to how to get there. I knew the bus stop and what buses would take me there. However, those were not enough. I still got lost. Without clarity, knowledge can hardly inspire any meaningful action. Without clarity, the tendency that you will miss your destination is higher no matter how much you know. Clarity is what gives you confidence. Clarity is what gives value to knowledge. It is good to know where ought to be your destination in life. However, it is critically important that you give yourself to seeking clarity about the dimensions of your operations and receiving specific instructions to help you get there.
Pride goes before embarrassment
If I knew exactly where I was going and how to get there, it would have been okay to be proud and not even say a word to the driver. But because I was ignorant, my pride cost me more embarrassment than it ordinarily would.You see, if you were the most intelligent person on earth with no area of ignorance and no need to learn from other people, it may have been okay to be proud. However, this is really not the case. It is sincerely foolish to be proud in the journey of life because all you know is all you have learnt and all you have learnt is not all there is to know. So, save yourself some embarrassment by getting down from your high heels. Humble yourself enough to be able to freely ask others for help and be of help to others.
Mentoring saves time, energy and money
The driver had the clarity I did not have. He had been to the place I was going before. He knew the way. By submitting to his superior experience, I would have saved time, energy and money. I’d like to think this illustrates the role mentors ought to play in our life journeys. The purpose of mentoring is not for unproductive attachments but for speed. Your mentor should be someone who has gathered the experience and who now has the heart to help you get ahead in life on time. The actionable insights from your interactions with him must save you time, energy and resources.
So, these are three lessons that I believe will profit your ability to navigate your way through life. Abandon your pride and give yourself to the pursuit of clarity. When you identify a man who can help you get to your destination, connect with him. Let him help you save time, energy and resources.
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You matter to me always.
I call you blessed.