In July this year, I started what I called JustPurposeDaily- a daily posting of tips on purpose and potentials for readers on social media, specifically WhatsApp, Facebook, and BBM. I had been doing that before then, but I became consistent with it and it now became an everyday endeavour.
What I want to share this week is a spill over from the ideas that I shared on Monday (yesterday) and Tuesday (today). I want to share with you three skills I believe are necessary for the effectiveness of the delivery of your life message. Skilfulness is a necessity for the fulfilment of your vision and these three things are very important.
Maya Angelou once remarked, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you!” Writing is an outlet for your story. You have to learn how to put your words together in writing and be able to have people read. You might never have a blog or write a book. But you’ll always have to write.
The World’s greatest messages have been preserved because they were written down. Your message must be preserved for generations to come. Writing offers you that opportunity. It is not until you have the skills of Chimamanda Adiche or, Chinua Achebe, William Faulkner, Rick Warren or any other best-selling author or writer before you can utilize this art. Just know how to communicate your ideas in a manner we can read and understand. The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt. You too can write!
Just like writing, speaking is central to the effective delivery of your life message. Speaking is about communicating your thoughts and ideas to others with your mouth. Ben Johnson once noted, “to speak and to speak well are two things. A fool may talk but a wise man speaks.” Talk is easy. Everybody talks. You have to learn to make your words count. Most great leaders were great speakers. Jesus was a great speaker. Communication experts still adapt principles from his works. You may not become like Mark Twain or even be close to Martin Luther King Jnr. You just must learn how to share your opinion, connect with your audience and inspire people.
“If I went back to college again, I’d concentrate on two areas: learning to write and speak before an audience. Nothing in life is more important than the ability to communicate effectively.” Gerald Ford.
Margaret Miller once made a comment on the kind of conversations we seem to always have. She said, “Most conversations are simply monologues delivered in the presence of a witness.” Rebecca West also shared this sentiment when she said there was no such thing as conversation. She said there are only “intersecting monologues.”
Listeners are scarce. We all want to talk and want others to listen. Of this, I must admit I am also guilty. But we cannot make impact if we don’t value people and learn to actively listen to them with the intent of understanding their situation and thoughts. Over time, I have learnt that when people come to share things with me, they are not always looking for a macho and Super Man to singlehandedly take over the world for them. What they seek is a sympathetic ear.
Don’t be quick to prescribe before you diagnose. Seek first to understand and then be understood.
Knowing when to offer tea and sympathy or a tool kit and a stout rope instead is the skill to learn!”- Richard Templar, Rules of Life
Writing, speaking and listening are all ingredients for an effective communication skills.
While it seems that some folks are born with these skills, we can all learn how to reach out to people to communicate our ideas to them by writing, speaking and listening!
Let me know what you think. Do you agree that these three skills are essentials for the delivery of your life message? Which of them do you think you need to work on and which would you think you are above average? What other skills do you think are necessary for making meaningful impact? Please join the conversation. Leave a comment!
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